Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage

Love Marriage: Resembles procedural programming language. We have some set functions like flirting, going to movies together, making long conversations on phone and then try to fit all functions to the candidate we like.

Arranged Marriage: Similar to object oriented programming approach. We first fix the candidate and then try to implement functions on her. The main object is fixed and various functions are added to supplement the main program. The functions can be added or deleted.

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Love Marriage: It is a throwaway type of prototype as client requirements rises with time thus it is a dynamic system and difficult to maintain.

Arranged Marriage: Requirements are well defined so use of waterfall model is possible.

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Love Marriage: Family system hangs because hardware called parents are not responding.

Arranged Marriage: Compatible with hardware Parents.

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Love Marriage: You are the project leader so u are responsible for implementation and execution of PROJECT- married life.

Arranged Marriage: You are a team member under project leader parents so they are responsible for successful execution of project Married life.

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Love Marriage: Client expectations include exciting feature as spouse cooking food, washing clothes etc.

Arranged Marriage: All these features are covered in the SRS as required features.

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Love Marriage: Acceptance test possible you can try before you Buy.

Arranged Marriage: Product is sold on an as is where is basis, Product once sold will not be taken back!

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Love, Separation, Pain ………..

Coping with separation specially when you are in love can be one of the hardest experiences life hands us. Although the circumstances of separation for a short time, are difficult, the hope of the person’s return makes the separation much easier for us to handle. However the intense emotional pain that comes along with it is very difficult to overcome.

For those who say that separation is easy, they don’t really know what it is to love someone. It’s a bold statement, but trust me, through distance, your heart really does grow fonder, through the thousands of miles of separation, you realize that you are missing something. Life goes on without them by your side… The mornings will greet you and the nights might bid you to sleep.. and yet, the sweetness of the morning breeze… and the sparkle of the night air is not the same..there will be a feeling of something missing.. an emptiness…. you just wish like having the most hectic days of life.. because it gives you a chance to fill a void that is always present within you but …as the day slows down… the memory of your love catches up.. and the longing of this aching heart begins to creep up within …and the hope that someday both will be together again is the only thing that keeps you going.

It is the distance that makes life a little hard. But then again distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be.

If you have ever been infatuated, you would have realized that infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love. As I have realized from personal experience the greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.

“There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It is caused by the absence of you.”

Just Three Words

LET ME HELP
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

I UNDERSTAND YOU
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know – in so many little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this applies to any relationship.

I RESPECT YOU
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.This strengthens bonds and brings closeness.

I MISS YOU
Perhaps more relationships could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you”. This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, If you received an unexpected phone call from your partner in the middle of your workday, just say “I miss you.”

MAY BE YOU’RE RIGHT
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. the implication when you say “may be you’re right” is the humility of admitting with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying “may be you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Many broken relationship could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed t own up that he has been in the wrong which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I THANK YOU
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted, They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

COUNT ON ME
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. when troubles come, a true friend is there indicating “you can count on me”.

I’LL BE THERE

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to to hospital or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there. Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

GO FOR IT

We are all unique individuals. Dont try to get your frie3nds conformto your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to “go for it”.

I LOVE YOU
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Everyone need to hear those three little words: “I LOVE YOU”. Love is a choice. you can love even when the feeling is gone.