Love, Separation, Pain ………..

Coping with separation specially when you are in love can be one of the hardest experiences life hands us. Although the circumstances of separation for a short time, are difficult, the hope of the person’s return makes the separation much easier for us to handle. However the intense emotional pain that comes along with it is very difficult to overcome.

For those who say that separation is easy, they don’t really know what it is to love someone. It’s a bold statement, but trust me, through distance, your heart really does grow fonder, through the thousands of miles of separation, you realize that you are missing something. Life goes on without them by your side… The mornings will greet you and the nights might bid you to sleep.. and yet, the sweetness of the morning breeze… and the sparkle of the night air is not the same..there will be a feeling of something missing.. an emptiness…. you just wish like having the most hectic days of life.. because it gives you a chance to fill a void that is always present within you but …as the day slows down… the memory of your love catches up.. and the longing of this aching heart begins to creep up within …and the hope that someday both will be together again is the only thing that keeps you going.

It is the distance that makes life a little hard. But then again distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be.

If you have ever been infatuated, you would have realized that infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love. As I have realized from personal experience the greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.

“There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It is caused by the absence of you.”

One Smile is worth a dozen frowns!

Sometimes you feel you want to cry
And life seems such a trial…
But above the clouds there’s a bright blue sky
That will make your tears a SMILE.

As you travel along life’s way
With its many ups and downs,
Remember that it’s true to say
One Smile is worth a dozen frowns!

Happiness comes at times to all,
But sadness comes unbidden…
And sometimes a few tears must fall
Among the laughter hidden.

So when your friends are feeling down
And troubles round them piled
The world will seem a better place
And all because YOU SMILED!!

Just Three Words

LET ME HELP
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

I UNDERSTAND YOU
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know – in so many little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this applies to any relationship.

I RESPECT YOU
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.This strengthens bonds and brings closeness.

I MISS YOU
Perhaps more relationships could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you”. This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, If you received an unexpected phone call from your partner in the middle of your workday, just say “I miss you.”

MAY BE YOU’RE RIGHT
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. the implication when you say “may be you’re right” is the humility of admitting with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying “may be you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Many broken relationship could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed t own up that he has been in the wrong which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I THANK YOU
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted, They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

COUNT ON ME
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. when troubles come, a true friend is there indicating “you can count on me”.

I’LL BE THERE

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to to hospital or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there. Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

GO FOR IT

We are all unique individuals. Dont try to get your frie3nds conformto your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to “go for it”.

I LOVE YOU
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Everyone need to hear those three little words: “I LOVE YOU”. Love is a choice. you can love even when the feeling is gone.

The Tragedy of RMS Titanic

On April 10, 1912, the Titanic, largest ship afloat, left Southampton, England on her maiden voyage to New York City. The White Star Line had spared no expense in assuring her luxury.

Four days into her journey, at 11:40 P.M. on the night of April 14, she struck an iceberg. the collision was fatal and the icy water soon poured through the ship. The great ship slowly slid beneath the waters two hours and forty minutes after the collision.

Here is a first hand account by one of the lucky survivors of the disaster.

Elizabeth Shutes, aged 40, was governess to nineteen-year-old Margaret Graham who was traveling with her parents. As Shutes and her charge sit in their First Class cabin they feel a shudder travel through the ship. At first comforted by her belief in the safety of the ship, Elizabeth’s composure is soon shattered by the realization of the imminent tragedy:

“Suddenly a queer quivering ran under me, apparently the whole length of the ship. Startled by the very strangeness of the shivering motion, I sprang to the floor. With too perfect a trust in that mighty vessel I again lay down. Some one knocked at my door, and the voice of a friend said: ‘Come quickly to my cabin; an iceberg has just passed our window; I know we have just struck one.’

No confusion, no noise of any kind, one could believe no danger imminent. Our stewardess came and said she could learn nothing. Looking out into the companionway I saw heads appearing asking questions from half-closed doors. All sepulchrally still, no excitement. I sat down again. My friend was by this time dressed; still her daughter and I talked on, Margaret pretending to eat a sandwich. Her hand shook so that the bread kept parting company from the chicken. Then I saw she was frightened, and for the first time I was too, but why get dressed, as no one had given the slightest hint of any possible danger? An officer’s cap passed the door. I asked: ‘Is there an accident or danger of any kind? ‘None, so far as I know’, was his courteous answer, spoken quietly and most kindly. This same officer then entered a cabin a little distance down the companionway and, by this time distrustful of everything, I listened intently, and distinctly heard, ‘We can keep the water out for a while.’ Then, and not until then, did I realize the horror of an accident at sea. Now it was too late to dress; no time for a waist, but a coat and skirt were soon on; slippers were quicker than shoes; the stewardess put on our life-preservers, and we were just ready when Mr Roebling came to tell us he would take us to our friend’s mother, who was waiting above …

Two lifeboats approach the Carpathia April 15, 1912 No laughing throng, but on either side [of the staircases] stand quietly, bravely, the stewards, all equipped with the white, ghostly life-preservers. Always the thing one tries not to see even crossing a ferry. Now only pale faces, each form strapped about with those white bars. So gruesome a scene. We passed on. The awful good-byes. The quiet look of hope in the brave men’s eyes as the wives were put into the lifeboats. Nothing escaped one at this fearful moment. We left from the sun deck, seventy-five feet above the water. Mr Case and Mr Roebling, brave American men, saw us to the lifeboat, made no effort to save themselves, but stepped back on deck. Later they went to an honoured grave.

Our lifeboat, with thirty-six in it, began lowering to the sea. This was done amid the greatest confusion. Rough seamen all giving different orders. No officer aboard. As only one side of the ropes worked, the lifeboat at one time was in such a position that it seemed we must capsize in mid-air. At last the ropes worked together, and we drew nearer and nearer the black, oily water. The first touch of our lifeboat on that black sea came to me as a last good-bye to life, and so we put off – a tiny boat on a great sea – rowed away from what had been a safe home for five days.

The first wish on the part of all was to stay near the Titanic. We all felt so much safer near the ship. Surely such a vessel could not sink. I thought the danger must be exaggerated, and we could all be taken aboard again. But surely the outline of that great, good ship was growing less. The bow of the boat was getting black. Light after light was disappearing, and now those rough seamen put to their oars and we were told to hunt under seats, any place, anywhere, for a lantern, a light of any kind. Every place was empty. There was no water – no stimulant of any kind. Not a biscuit – nothing to keep us alive had we drifted long…

Sitting by me in the lifeboat were a mother and daughter. The mother had left a husband on the Titanic, and the daughter a father

Survivors on the deckof the Carpathia and husband, and while we were near the other boats those two stricken women would call out a name and ask, ‘Are you there?’ ‘No,’would come back the awful answer, but these brave women never lost courage, forgot their own sorrow, telling me to sit close to them to keep warm… The life-preservers helped to keep us warm, but the night was bitter cold, and it grew colder and colder, and just before dawn, the coldest, darkest hour of all, no help seemed possible…

…The stars slowly disappeared, and in their place came the faint pink glow of another day. Then I heard, ‘A light, a ship.’ I could not, would not, look while there was a bit of doubt, but kept my eyes away. All night long I had heard, ‘A light!’ Each time it proved to be one of our other lifeboats, someone lighting a piece of paper, anything they could find to burn, and now I could not believe. Someone found a newspaper; it was lighted and held up. Then I looked and saw a ship. A ship bright with lights; strong and steady she waited, and we were to be saved. A straw hat was offered it would burn longer. That same ship that had come to save us might run us down. But no; she is still. The two, the ship and the dawn, came together, a living painting.”

References:
Elizabeth Shutes’ account first appeared in: Gracie, Archibold, The Truth About the Titanic (1913), reprinted in: Foster, John Wilson (editor), The Titanic Reader (1999); Lord, Walter, A Night to Remember (1955); Davie, Michael, Titanic: The Death and Life of a Legend (1986).

Jal – Love Sparks Chaltay Chaltay Video

Jal just released the video of their song “Chaltay Chaltay” featuring Amrita Rao. The song is not included in their latest album Boondh. Good song..and the video is very cute..all about remembering your carefree college days and old flame. View the video right here or if you want download the video.

Song: Chaltay Chaltay

Artist/Band: Jal the Band

Download the mp3 of the song Chaltay Chaltay.