I Wish….

I wish I could go back to the time

When,

“Getting High” meant “On a Swing”

When,

“Drinking” meant “Lemonade”

When,

Dad was the only “HERO”

When,

“Love” was “Mom’s Hug”

When,

Dad’s shoulder was “the Highest place on Earth”

When,

Our Worst Enemies were “our Siblings”

When,

The only thing that could “Hurt” was a “Skinned Knee”

When,

The only things “Broken” were our “Toys” and

When,

“Goodbyes” only meant “Till Tomorrow”

As a child always used to wonder that when I grow up, everything will be as per my wishes and under my control! What an illusion!  I cherish my childhood.  :(

End of Another Decade

As the year 2009 is about to end, I’m thinking it’s not just another year, it’s a decade coming to an end. Just made me think what have I done in this decade?

To sum up the decade, here is the list of things that happened to me in the decade about to end:

2000 -Graduated from Unversity of Calcutta, BSC in Botany.

2001 - My elder brother got his job. Very good news but then he had to move away from us.  :(

2002 - Completed my post-grad, topped my department.

2003 - Registerd for my Ph. D.

2004 - Got my first job as SEO trainee. Got the taste of SEO as link developer for 3SmartCubes.com. Created record by being first girl from my family to actually work.

2005 – Promoted to post of SEO Analyst. Dropped my Ph. D plans. It seemed to be going nowhere!

2006 - Life is full of suprises!!! Made a friend out of the blue, and he became my bestest friend. 31st march is a red letter day in my calendar! Started my blog.

2007 - Confessed my love for my sweetheart! The most unforgettable year of my life till date!

Passed my Diplome Superieur (French).

2008 – Last saw my sweetheart.

2009 - A very eventful year!!! My younger brother went abroad. My elder brother got married. Lost too many near and dear ones! The losses were accompanied with new members joining the family as spouses of cousins. But overall for me it’s been the Worst year of the decade. It’s been a very lonely and long year! And THE WAIT doesn’t seem to end!  :(

In the last ten years my life has changed a lot and that goes the same for me too!! I have drastically changed from a timid soft-spoken girl to a bold and confident woman! I hope I have changed for the better.

As the new year and decade starts, I just wish my dreams and wishes come true.

Hoping for a great Decade ahead of me!

Wish you all a Very Happy And Prosperous New year!

What Every Girl Dreams Of

Artist: Carlos Lascano

Is your dream different from this one?

Coffee Cup Analogy

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university lecturer. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the lecturer went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass, some plain-looking and some expensive and exquisite, telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the lecturer said: “If you noticed, all the nice-looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the better cups and are eyeing each other’s cups.”

“Now, if Life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn’t change. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it.”

So please, don’t let the cups drive you…enjoy the coffee instead. Being happy does not mean everything is perfect.

It means you have decided to see beyond the imperfection

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university lecturer. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the lecturer went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass, some plain-looking and some expensive and exquisite, telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the lecturer said: “If you noticed, all the nice-looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the better cups and are eyeing each other’s cups.”

“Now, if Life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn’t change. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it.”

So please, don’t let the cups drive you…enjoy the coffee instead.

Being happy does not mean everything is perfect.  It means you have decided to see beyond the imperfection.

Does Love Make You Weak?

Being on love (yes, not *in* but *rather *on*) makes you go through so many different emotions and feeling strong is certainly one of them. But, by being in love you allow yourself to become vulnerable to any type of potential damage (either directed to your ego or toward your spirits).

The very first feeling that attaches itself to (right after realizing that very “moment”) your every act is, perhaps, how mesmerized you are by this human being and how you really yearn to be closer to him/her. And somehow, reason tends to disappear when s/he is around. You are a bit more likely to make hazardous decisions just to be a bit more closer.

However, love does not make everyone *weak* in the knees, I think love makes the *weak*, weak-er and makes the *strong*, strong-er. That includes the unrequited lover the one who is not able to, or who does not allow him/her self to confess. That also includes the lovers who are able to express their love openly, they tend to bring more strength into each other’s lives just by showing how much they care and how much they are willing to undergo in life to keep their love *alive*…

Sometimes keeping things alive requires more strength then one is willing to give and that is when it gets dark, unjust and unsafe… Love, at times, may feel as though we are getting weaker by the minute; yet it is not only because of love when we feel weak, it is also because of the fear of losing it…

My personal opinion is that fear and weakness need not be a part of, what we call and carry in our hearts, “love”. The net load of love shall feed our desire to become stronger and it shall help us realize that we are lucky to have discovered such euphoria; therefore, let it circulate in our system and have it be an inspiration, have it be vast, have it diverge to infinity if you can afford to do so…

Being in makes you go through so many different emotions and feeling strong is certainly one of them. But, by being in love you allow yourself to become vulnerable to any type of potential damage whcih can be either directed to your ego or toward your spirits.

The very first feeling that attaches itself to (right after realizing that very “moment”) your every act is, perhaps, how mesmerized you are by this human being and how you really yearn to be closer to him/her. And somehow, reason tends to disappear when s/he is around. You are a bit more likely to make hazardous decisions just to be a bit more closer.

However, love does not make everyone weak in the knees, I think love makes the weak, weak-er and makes the strong, strong-er. That includes the unrequited lover the one who is not able to, or who does not allow him/her self to confess. That also includes the lovers who are able to express their love openly, they tend to bring more strength into each other’s lives just by showing how much they care and how much they are willing to undergo in life to keep their love alive…

Sometimes keeping things alive requires more strength then one is willing to give and that is when it gets dark, unjust and unsafe… Love, at times, may feel as though we are getting weaker by the minute; yet it is not love that makes you weak, rather it is the fear of losing it.

My personal opinion is that fear and weakness need not be a part of, what we call and carry in our hearts, “love”. The net load of love should feed our desire to become stronger and it should help us realize that we are lucky to have discovered such euphoria; therefore, let it circulate in our system and have it be an inspiration, have it be vast, have it diverge to infinity if you can afford to do so.

You need a Shark in your Life!

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades.

So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish. If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh. The Japanese did not like the taste.

To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen and they did not like frozen fish.

The frozen fish brought a lower price. So fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks. After a little thrashing around, the fish stopped moving. They were tired and dull, but alive. Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference. Because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste.

The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish. So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan? If you were consulting the fish industry, what would you recommend?

How Japanese Fish Stay Fresh:

To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks. But now they add a small shark to each tank. The shark eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state. The fish are challenged.

Have you realized that some of us are also living in a pond but most of the time tired & dull, so we need a Shark in our life to keep us awake and moving?

Basically in our lives Sharks are new challenges to keep us active and taste better….. The more intelligent, persistent and competent you are, the more you enjoy a challenge. If your challenges are the correct size, and if you are steadily conquering those challenges, you are Conqueror.. You think of your challenges and get energized. You are excited to try new solutions. You have fun. You are alive!

Thinking of YOU!

Somewhere there’s someone who dreams of your smile,
And finds in your presence that life is worth while.
So when you are lonely, remember it’s true
Somebody somewhere is thinking of you.

 

Life is a Gift

Today before you say unkind word – Think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food – Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife – Think of someone who’s crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life – Think of someone who died too early on this earth.

Before you complain about your children – Think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn’t clean or sweep – Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive – Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job – Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job. 

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another – Remember that not one of us is without sin. 

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down – Put a smile on your face and think: you’re alive and still around.

Never say I love you….

Never say I love you
If you really don’t care. 

Never talk about feelings
If they aren’t really there. 

Never hold my hand
If you are going to break my heart. 

Never say you’re going to
If you don’t really plan to start. 

Never look into my eyes
If all you do is lie. 

Never say hello
If what you really mean is goodbye. 

If you really mean forever
Then say you will try. 

Never say forever
Cause forever makes me cry.

Journey of a Girl

 

4 years old -

She sees her papa waiting for her outside school. She runs towards him and falls flat on face. She looks up and there is the hand of her father helping her with the pain.

10 years old -

She comes back home crying for a loss of friend. A friend who betrayed her for another. There is the hand of a mother trying to wipe her tears.

17 years old -

She is in her teen age and there is a guy harassing her. There is a brother to protect her and she feels safe.

19 years old -

She is going through an emotional crisis unable to understand her feelings. There is a sister who helps her understand those feelings.

25 years old -

She is in love. She has abondoned every one for this one man.

Today -

She is in pain. Yet another pain and nobody to understand her or help her. The pain of losing one and all for none. No love no family. She looks up for one hand and there is none.

And sees her own shadow today.