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Does Love Make You Weak?

July 25, 2009 Farghana Leave a comment
Being on love (yes, not *in* but *rather *on*) makes you go through so many different emotions and feeling strong is certainly one of them. But, by being in love you allow yourself to become vulnerable to any type of potential damage (either directed to your ego or toward your spirits).
The very first feeling that attaches itself to (right after realizing that very “moment”) your every act is, perhaps, how mesmerized you are by this human being and how you really yearn to be closer to him/her. And somehow, reason tends to disappear when s/he is around. You are a bit more likely to make hazardous decisions just to be a bit more closer.
However, love does not make everyone *weak* in the knees, I think love makes the *weak*, weak-er and makes the *strong*, strong-er. That includes the unrequited lover the one who is not able to, or who does not allow him/her self to confess. That also includes the lovers who are able to express their love openly, they tend to bring more strength into each other’s lives just by showing how much they care and how much they are willing to undergo in life to keep their love *alive*…
Sometimes keeping things alive requires more strength then one is willing to give and that is when it gets dark, unjust and unsafe… Love, at times, may feel as though we are getting weaker by the minute; yet it is not only because of love when we feel weak, it is also because of the fear of losing it…
My personal opinion is that fear and weakness need not be a part of, what we call and carry in our hearts, “love”. The net load of love shall feed our desire to become stronger and it shall help us realize that we are lucky to have discovered such euphoria; therefore, let it circulate in our system and have it be an inspiration, have it be vast, have it diverge to infinity if you can afford to do so…

Being in makes you go through so many different emotions and feeling strong is certainly one of them. But, by being in love you allow yourself to become vulnerable to any type of potential damage whcih can be either directed to your ego or toward your spirits.

The very first feeling that attaches itself to (right after realizing that very “moment”) your every act is, perhaps, how mesmerized you are by this human being and how you really yearn to be closer to him/her. And somehow, reason tends to disappear when s/he is around. You are a bit more likely to make hazardous decisions just to be a bit more closer.

However, love does not make everyone weak in the knees, I think love makes the weak, weak-er and makes the strong, strong-er. That includes the unrequited lover the one who is not able to, or who does not allow him/her self to confess. That also includes the lovers who are able to express their love openly, they tend to bring more strength into each other’s lives just by showing how much they care and how much they are willing to undergo in life to keep their love alive…

Sometimes keeping things alive requires more strength then one is willing to give and that is when it gets dark, unjust and unsafe… Love, at times, may feel as though we are getting weaker by the minute; yet it is not love that makes you weak, rather it is the fear of losing it.

My personal opinion is that fear and weakness need not be a part of, what we call and carry in our hearts, “love”. The net load of love should feed our desire to become stronger and it should help us realize that we are lucky to have discovered such euphoria; therefore, let it circulate in our system and have it be an inspiration, have it be vast, have it diverge to infinity if you can afford to do so.

Happy Mother’s Day

May 10, 2009 Farghana Leave a comment

A man stopped at a flower shop for ordering some flowers to be sent as a gift to his mother who lived two hundred miles away.

As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing. He asked her what was wrong and she replied, “I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother. But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars.”

The man smiled and said, “Come on in with me. I’ll buy you a rose.” He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother’s flowers.

As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home. She said, “Yes, please! You can take me to my mother.”

She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave. The man returned to the flower shop, canceled the gifting order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother’s house.
At times we take many such relationships with our family and friends for granted. Learn to value them.

Best Wishes for Mothers Day!

Happy Anniversary!

March 31, 2009 Farghana 2 comments

If you believe in destiny then you have know that things happen when they are meant to be. Things happen for reasons beyond human comprehension.  That is how I met someone. Out of the blue I meet this perfect stranger three years back, on this day, and today he is an integral part of me. The reality remains if you are meant to love each other and be with each other, it will happen. That’s the power of destiny.  Love always wins.  Love is important and only it counts.

Words are just not enough to tell you how much you mean to me and how much I need you by my side, all my life. You have touched my life in ways others can’t even think of. Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, falling in love with you was beyond my control!

Three glorious years of our relationship and I have cherished every single moment of it. In these three  years together we’ve shared so many things. I hope this anniversary brings us, a wish that love, laughter, joy, contentment will be ours to share throughout the years ahead of us! Thanks sweetheart for every teeny-weeny thing you have done to make me so happy. The more I know you, the more I love you. Happy Anniversary once again!!

Thinking of YOU!

November 19, 2008 Farghana 1 comment

Somewhere there’s someone who dreams of your smile,
And finds in your presence that life is worth while.
So when you are lonely, remember it’s true
Somebody somewhere is thinking of you.

 

Love is....

Kahin toh Hogi

October 31, 2008 Farghana Leave a comment

Yes I wonder, where is this world where all your dreams and wishes come true…!!! Why doesn’t real life has a happy ending like reel life..why does real life ends with pain and heartbreak more than often!! :(

Really love this song.  Cos it reflects my  feelings. 

Here are the lyrics:

Kahin to.. kahin to..
Hogi woh duniya
Jahaan tu mere saath hai..

 
Jahaan mein, jahaan tu,
Aur jahaan, bas tere mere jazbaat hain,
Hogi jahaan subah teri palko ki kiranon mein,
Lori jahan chand ki sune teri baahon mein.. 

(Jaane naa kahaan wo duniya hai?
Jaane naa wo hai bhi ya nahi?
Jahaan meri zindagi mujhse,
Itni khafa nahi..) – 2

Saansein kho gayin hain kiski aahon mein,
Main kho gayi hoon jaane kiski baahon mein,
Manzilon se raahein dhoondhti chali,
Kho gayi hai manzil kahin rahon mein.. 

Kahin to, kahin to hai nasha..
Teri meri har mulaqaat mein.
Honton se, honton ko choomti, 
o rehte hai hum har baat pe.

Kehti hai fiza jahan,
Teri zameen aasmaan.
Jahan hai tu, meri hassi,
Meri khushi, meri jaan……

(Jaane naa kahan woh duniya hai,
Jaane naa wo hai bhi ya nahi,
Jahaan meri zindagi mujhse,
Itni khafa nahi..) – 3

Movie :Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na
Singer :Rashid Ali, Vasundhara Das
Music Director :A R Rahman 
Lyrics : Abbas Tyrewala
Year : 2008
Actors : Genelia Dsouza, Imraan Khan
Director :Abbas Tyrewala

Happy Mother’s Day

May 11, 2008 Farghana Leave a comment

On the occassion of Mother’s day, I was just reflecting at the kind of relationship I share with my mom and realized that it’s one of the most beautiful and treasured relationships of my life.  Ever since my childhood what I remember of her is a strong, independent, vibrant, outgoing, beautiful woman and just as Abraham Lincoln said – “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother”. Not being of the kind who would be afraid of what others think, she has always given me the freedom to follow my dreams and how much do I thank her it’s not going to be enough for all what she has done for us – the sacrifices, the hard work, the efforts – there are far too many things she has done for us. So here Mummy.. YOU ARE THE BEST and a very HAPPY MOTHER”S DAY

Happy Mother’s Day to my mother and anyone who is a mom, will be a mom, wants to be a mom, is like a mom, was a mom, has a mom, or had a mom:  Happy Mother’s Day!

Love, Separation, Pain ………..

April 30, 2008 Farghana 8 comments

Coping with separation specially when you are in love can be one of the hardest experiences life hands us. Although the circumstances of separation for a short time, are difficult, the hope of the person’s return makes the separation much easier for us to handle. However the intense emotional pain that comes along with it is very difficult to overcome.

For those who say that separation is easy, they don’t really know what it is to love someone. It’s a bold statement, but trust me, through distance, your heart really does grow fonder, through the thousands of miles of separation, you realize that you are missing something. Life goes on without them by your side… The mornings will greet you and the nights might bid you to sleep.. and yet, the sweetness of the morning breeze… and the sparkle of the night air is not the same..there will be a feeling of something missing.. an emptiness…. you just wish like having the most hectic days of life.. because it gives you a chance to fill a void that is always present within you but …as the day slows down… the memory of your love catches up.. and the longing of this aching heart begins to creep up within …and the hope that someday both will be together again is the only thing that keeps you going.

It is the distance that makes life a little hard. But then again distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be.

If you have ever been infatuated, you would have realized that infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love. As I have realized from personal experience the greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.

“There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It is caused by the absence of you.”

Lessons of Life

February 27, 2008 Farghana 3 comments

Easy is to get a place is someone’s address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone’s heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound.

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them.

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream.

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity.

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side.

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up.

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value.

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise.

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day.

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself!

Rare Pics of Shahrukh Khan

February 27, 2008 Farghana 67 comments
Some really rare pics of Shahrukh Khan
Shahrukh’s Parents & Sister
Shahrukhs’ Parents and Sister
Baby SRK
Baby Shahrukh
Shahrukh’s Dad
SRK’s Dad
Sword of Honour
Sword of Honor
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School Yearbook
SRK in Cricket Team
Part of School Cricket Team

SRK with Friends

SRK with Friends
SRK & Gauri
SRK with the GF Gauri

Nandini – The Little Angel In Archana’s Life

January 22, 2008 Farghana 1 comment

On January 7th 2008 at 4:10 in the morning, my friend Archana and her hubby Hari was blessed with a lovely baby girl. They have named her – Nandini – I had never told anyone but when I first got the news of Archana expecting, I was really happy fro her but at the same time..I must confess I felt a tinge of jealousy..was really surprised myself ..cos I have never had such a feeling towards my friends.. (to be honest I do feel jealous, c’mon everyone does) But now I, in fact, envy her.. She has got a lovely baby in her arms now. She is a cutie-pie!! A perfect child for a perfect made for each other couple!!! I still cant believe that it’s the same the same Archana who would get her knees bruised on her cycling trips … would now be taking care of a baby of her own, the same Archana who would repay others with a tit-for-tat (she wouldn’t play badminton with someone cos last day that person didn’t play with her)..now she will be giving moral lessons to her child.

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Here’s a little poem for the newly-arrived Nandini:

Ten fingers, Ten toes
She’s laughter and teardrops
So small and brand new
And amazingly angelic
She’s sent to bless you
She’s one special Baby
The best of life’s treasure
And will grant and bless you
Many hours of great pleasure.
Nandini - Day 3

God bless her!!

Nandini - With Parents

And this is what the just-turned-mom has to advise to soon-to-be-parents:
Life has become really biziee these days!!! For all those who are expecting to become dads or moms….sleep/take rest as much as possible before your baby is born!!

So there you go people straight first-hand fresh experience speaking!